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Letting Go

There are so many expectations that we place on ourselves from such an early age in life.  We want nothing more than to fit in, be accepted and find our place in this world.  Often times, the cost of that is hiding parts of ourselves that we don't think people will like or accept, or might even find weird!  It's adopting "likes" and "hobbies" that we think our peers or even family will find acceptable to help us fit in even more, driving ourselves further into hiding.  It creates a huge barrier and a lot of internal conflict for us when we do this.  We are all so very unique and so very special, but that doesn't mean that everyone is going to like and accept us for that.  But it also means that we shouldn't change ourselves to please others either. 

I think one of the biggest life lessons I am only beginning to learn is to let go of all those expectations.  Let go of caring about what other people are going to think.  Let go of those disappointments and all of those heart aches.  Let go of what you think things should be like and embrace the reality of what they are.  Let go of what you think you should be and love what you are! Let your hair down, dress up pretty and treat yourself - love yourself more than anything in this world, because when you do, amazing things start to happen!  You start smiling more.  You love more.  You forgive more.  You can actually let go!  You are not afraid to be you and you really don't care who likes you or doesn't like you, because you know what, you love you and that is all that matters.  Do what makes you happy!  Love with everything that you are!  Show compassion!  Show forgiveness!  Smile whenever you can!  Do not let anyone ever make you feel like you are not worthy, that you are not good enough, that you are too weird - because at the end of the day, it really is their loss.  You know who you are and you know what you have to offer the world and there is no other person in this world that can take that away from you.  Let go and find you, even if that makes other people angry! 

Just learn to let go and be you! 

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